physics or energy transmission, we know that – (negative) attracts
to + (positive) and repels from –
(negative). We know that all energy in the universe exists and
moves using the power of polarity and the laws of attraction. In
terms of gender relations, how does polar energies play a
significant role? To solve this we need to use a tangible
visual. So using the same basic formula, let's substitute
“positive” with females and “negative” with males.
(Heterosexual males are attracted to females, and repelled from
you are a male and behave like a male, a heterosexual female
will be attracted to you (or at least your gender).
But if a male does everything he can to please the opposite
sex (pun intended) and acts sweet, friendly, artistic, gentle, kind,
submissive, loving and tender, will a
very feminine female be attracted to that male?
above listed personality traits are wonderful, but very feminine
in nature. A male who possesses and behaves through these
qualities (or a majority of these qualities) as his facade
personality, will appear effeminate or give off female energy.
have girlfriends and families to provide them those things
anyway. A female needs to feel a powerful, inexplicable
attraction towards a male in order for progression to occur
towards a sexual and/or committed relationship. If a male is
exuding an energy that is very positive, she will be repelled by
it. Why? No one know for sure, but the reasons probably stem
from thousands of years
of evolution and human development and it works out best for our
survival in both social and biological ways. Feminine females
are attracted to masculine males and vice-versa. Opposites do
attract, specifically concerning attraction that is driven by
primal sexual instincts.
specifically because of the collapsing of the traditional family
and the gray-shading of gender roles and a phenomenon I call unisexification, it is difficult to know how to behave towards
the opposite sex, specifically during courtship. Now-a-days
assertive or slightly aggressive behavior (which is a
universally attractive characteristic of male mammals of ANY
specie) is frowned upon, by our legal system and mass media.
This is scaring males into become wussies, for fear of getting
sued for groping, harassment and other fine-line crimes. By no
means am I trivializing the seriousness of sexual harassment or
violence towards women. In fact, I would go as far as suggest
that because of the social discouragement of certain, natural
and intrinsic, male characteristics, men are more like to bottle
up feelings that eventually are released in a morbid or
unacceptable way. Unisexification and discouraging males from
being males, actually contributes to their sometimes-disturbing
behavior toward women.
I saying that aggression, decisiveness, cynicism, sarcasm,
focus, constructiveness, drive and goal-orientation are
primarily male attributes? YES I AM.
I saying females can not or do not have any of these traits? I
certainly am not! Males and females can share all sorts of
characteristics that can be deemed either male or female. But
this is not about males and females, but more about masculine
and feminine energies, and their distinctive differences.
we all know, there are masculine females, and feminine men.
There is nothing wrong with this, but people with masculine
qualities will attract people with feminine qualities and
surmise that a perfect balance can only be achieved with a
mostly-manly man in touch with his feminine side and a feminine
lady in touch with her masculine side. as reflected in a
YIN-YANG symbol. Both energies are required to fulfill the
symbol of perfect harmony.
piece is uniquely made to compliment the other, creating a
mutually beneficial balance, that can not be achieved without
each polar opposite power forging together to create a new,
unique and even more powerful and beautiful energy.
the mystery has been solved, opposites really do attract?
Actually… Not really. In part II we will explore why “the
opposite’s attract” notion is a double-edged sword in the
world of dating and gender interaction.
to Polar Power: Do Opposites Attract (Part II)