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For a relationship to work between a man and a women, generally speaking, women need to feel loved, and men need to feel respected. If a woman loves a man, but does not respect him, that relationship is as doomed to fail as a clueless jock taking a Harvard entrance exam.

Respect is one of the basic human values. As it applies to people, is defined as an attitude of admiration or esteem for a person. This feeling is generally a result of a person's achievements. While all people deserve respect, not many receive it. 

Why? Because respect is earn and it is not a right.

Most relationships fail not because of a lack of love, but a lack of respect. Think about your first love. There is always a place in your heart for them, but your relationship didn't work out. Probably because of something one or both of you did. Cheated? Lied? Acting apathetical or unappreciative? These overtime can lead to a loss of respect and the subsequent and inevitable failure of the relationship. 

Think about it powerful and successful men, respect makes all relationships function and work well. Think about how many times you hear these type of statements in the high paying worlds of business or sport... "I don't personally like him, but I respect him.", "We are not best of friends but we respect each other". It is that type of respect that makes people feel secure in doing business with another person. In other words, respect is about trust. When you trust someone you are willing to do business with them, even if you don't particularly like them.

In terms of relationships, when women trusts and respects her man she will be willing to give herself to him in almost any way imaginable. ‘Respect’ itself is just a word, but what it means and what it distinguishes for us can make all the difference in how we observe ourselves and others — as well as how we relate to future possibilities and choices.

Many successful relationships have been built around different political or religious believes, but it all boils down to respect. They are based on the belief that both partners are equal, that the power and control in the relationship are equally shared. Respect means to listening each other, valuing each other's opinions, and also understanding the other's emotions.

If you want your wife or girlfriend to respect you, here are 5 tips you'll need to hone in on and understand. You need to earn it, so there is not much you can do towards her directly, everything you do to earn her respect is something you do to and towards yourself and express it outwardly. Respect becomes a feeling she will get as a result inwardly. So here they are:

What you give is what you get - Show respect if you want to be respectable. Everyone wants to be admired and appreciated. If you show your woman that she is important to you, you'll be easily in their good graces. Be attentive, and know what makes her feel comfortable with you and content overall. Listen carefully when she talks, even if you disagree, let her say it before you intervene. So, she'll love spending time with you.

Take a Chill Pill - Relax! Women get frustrated and end up thinking their man is mediocre because they have a boring or uptight personalities. Take her out on dates, and don't be afraid to spend a little money. Go out and have fun every now and again and stop penny-pinching, you only live once. When you have a date with her relax and have fun so she will feel comfortable around you. If you make her feel good she will respect you for the being the laid back guy that you are, being the person who she can count on when things are peachy. Think about it, imagine she has a bad day and then comes home just to hear you all wound up about how she left a towel on the floor or how she spent too much money on that purse or whatever. That will go from a bad day (caused by external circumstances) to a bad day, that is all pinned on you. So you can either be the guy she pins the blame on or the guy she counts on. You can choose... your attitude is just about everything.

Don't lie - We all know that women (or anyone for that matter) don't like to be lied to. If she had ever caught you in a little white lie, she will quickly lose respect for you and it will take a long time to regain her trust. But, if she sees that you are sincere to her all the time, she will be proud of you and will show more and more respect to you. Lying does not only mean, you fabricate a story and then feed it to her. To a women, you can lie in other ways too. For example, if you always say you are a really punctual and then you are late most of the time, this is a lie that leads women to lose respect really fast. Another example is imagine you are hard on her one time for being late for something, but then you are very lenient on yourself making up all sorts of excuses for being late yourself. This is being a hypocrite and this is a lie of biblical proportions! Essentially what this all means is this: do what you say, and say what you do. Not lying also means being true to yourself. Don't live a lie and she'll respect you. 

Be confident and polite - Look into her eyes when she talks to you and make her feel that you are a person who can trust in. Show her that she can talk with you about any subject or problem she has and can count on your help. Don't forget to be polite, this will bring a reciprocal respect. No matter how angry or upset a situation may get you, just be calm and rational. Even if she disagrees with you, she'll hold your respect. 

Think about it in this way.

You are a martial arts fighter and you are ready to have a no hold bard brawl with one of the toughest loud mouth warriors you've ever fought! You really don't like this guy and want to beat him really badly. Are you going to have no respect for the guy (knowing full well that he is a skilled and dangerous fighter) and come running at him throwing wild punches out of your anger? Well if you do this you are bound to get your ass knocked out. Even if you don't like him, you have to respect him (as a fighter) or nothing good will come out of it. Even if she is being belligerent and comes out swinging and accusing you of things, the best way to diffuse that bomb is to remain calm and weather a bit of the storm and then come back with a self-respecting statement like, "I don't think I deserve to be treated like this, so if you want to have a conversation and treat me like a person, I'm willing to listen, otherwise for my own dignity's sake, I'm going to have to walk away from this situation". That's the only way to have a chance to come out a winner in this situation.

Self-Respect - It is very important to have self respect. Treat yourself with respect. If she sees that you don't have any respect for yourself she might will believe that she doesn't have to show you either, because it is not important to you at all. 

You teach others how to treat you! You need to demand and command respect for her and others.

This means it will be let known to your partner that when you are in a relationship you must be treated with respect, which means you must have made it clear that the following are conditions of your relationship. Remember these will come naturally if you are in a mutually respectful relationship. If the following conditions don't exist within your relationship, there are respect and possibly trust issues in the relationship.

- Let each other feel comfortable being yourselves
- You and she are both able to admit being wrong without any gloating by the other and you are both able to sincerely apologize and accept apologies
- Are both willing to compromise
- You equally respect each other's opinions, feelings, family and friends
- You both try to resolve conflicts by talking honesty
- She accepts when you’re saying no at things you don't want to do. Also, accepts your decision to leave somewhere when you want to. If she demands too many explanations or throws hissy fits or starts a scene in front of others she doesn't respect you that much.
- Share intimacy both in terms of sexual experience and inner emotions and thoughts

If you have earned her respect, then the above should be happening naturally, it does not need to be forcefully presented to her. Just follow the 5 tips I laid out and all shall fall into place. 

PEACE OUT AND NUFF RESPECT!

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