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What a Girl
Wants: Female Social Behavioral Patterns
-written by Luigi Di Serio, edited by Aaron S.Bayley
Some guys just don't get it.
I never used to get it. And now I do. You
want to know what a girls really want? Well it's a paradox. You
see giving them what they want is really just giving back to
yourself. Read on, you'll understand what I mean.
Parents (our social
upbringing), our schools, and especially the media- through
movies, music videos (e.g. crappy songs like Christina
Aguilera's "what a girl wants"), commercials, soap
operas and sitcoms- have all told us how to treat a woman and
"what a girl wants". But has it ever occurred to you
that women never fall for "nice guys"
who try to give them what they want? Furthermore,
has it ever dawned on you that WOMEN DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT
you get the irony in all this? I hope so.
However, *getting it*
just doesn't cut it,
in order to give a girl what she wants and needs,
you need to understand it, and you
need to live it.
So how do you understand and
live it? You care, by not
at all. The best way to understand what a girl wants is to not
ask that question at all. Just don't care.
WHO CARES WHAT SHE WANTS? Why should you anyway? By
not caring you allow
them to be free, to do whatever so they please, thus giving them
their own God given freewill. Since women change what they want
as often as a
baby's diapers are changed, you can't really care
about what they want, you will simply go crazy trying to
give a girl what she wants. The
feeble male mind is not equipped to handle such drastic fluctuations
in desires. You'll need to give her not what she wants but what
she needs, and that is a steadfast rock.
like a massive ocean of emotion.
and change like
the waves and tides. They really have no direction. Whilst they can give
to you the calmest and most peaceful experience, they
can also brew the
fiercest of storms sinking every man's ship that crosses their
path. So if a woman is an ocean, what can a man be to give her
what she wants?
A man should be a shoreline and rocks. Steadfast and
upholding to his own rules and values. By doing so the ocean
will be free and wild, but know its limitations, thus staying
bound by the strength of the man. If women are water, then men
are (or ought to be) the natural counterpart; land.
Think about it, what's
the best way to care for the environment? You leave it be and
you be with it, but there is nothing it needs from you to be
beautiful and balanced. The
environment and eco-systems balance themselves out.
I know this sounds a little abstract, so, I'll give 5 rules
that men should abide by and in doing so, indirectly giving a
woman what she wants.
1) Be an individual - Live for yourself. Improve and grow as
an individual. No other person can "complete" you, but
they can certainly completely screw you up and over. Don't live
to please women, because you
simply can't. If issues arise on your end,
deal with them. If issues arise from their end, let them deal
with it. Love cannot exist with out freedom of will and choice.
That's why people go to war over freedom, it is the essential
ingredient that separates man from beast.
2) Be a assertive - You get what you ask for in life. Have
high standards, make them known and them leave it be. If you are
fearful or jealous or aggressive or use guilt to try to convince
a woman to be in a certain way, she'll do the EXACT opposite.
Ever told a child "DON'T YOU DARE DO THIS or THAT?!"
What do they do. Exactly what you told them not to. Maybe they
will refrain out of fear temporarily, but eventually they will
make it their goal to do exactly what you don't want them to.
Why? Because freedom is more important than any other thing to
the human spirit. God made us have the ability to love by choice
not by force.
3) A man with no vices is not a man at all - We all know
women love bad boys. Why? Because they want to change them, or
at least see if they can be have a man with messed up priorities
stay loyal to them. How
come supposedly smart women do such stupid things? Because it assures them of their self
worth. Remember, woman are SO SELFISH that everything they do is
to test their own self worth. That's why the hottest and most
admired women usually crave the most attention. They really
don't have much of an identity (but their looks) so they look
for validation. You want the woman to focus on you more and her
less. How do you do
this? Easy... you take risks, ignore her plenty and make her feel like
your slightly out of reach or disconnected,
then you reconnected just before she's ready to have a
breakdown. You are her hero. Think about it. If
you are starting to date a super hot women, and at a party, she
has every male looking at her and hitting on her, and you act
like you could care less, sipping your beer, watching a game,
talking to men and other women, she'll only be looking at you
and only you. Vices that destroy your health are probably not
good ones, but if you love a beer and red meat, every now and
then, by all means, indulge.
4) Be slightly arrogant and into yourself more than you are
into her - Be a little cocky, but in a funny (smirk on your
face) kind of way. Girls like to smile and laugh. It makes them
feel EXCITED *wink*. She'll go over the top to try to get your
attention, so don't crack, be steadfast. A woman's goal is to
freely GIVE herself to you, not for you to TAKE her. She's not
an item that you "pick up" in an aisle off a grocery
store shelf. So don't try to please her by buying her gifts or
dinners. She wants to let go around you, and to do that
to see that you are confident in yourself.
5) Be single even when your dating - NO, THIS DOES NOT MEAN
BE A CHEATER. It means have a shit load or friends and hobbies
so you don't start relying on a woman for entertainment. Women's
entertainment sucks ass.
Too many men are becoming too feminine. It is really gross.
Pop culture and the corporate marketing ploy to paint a massive
gray line between the genders and sexuality and have created so many
unfulfilling relationships, broken families and silly dating
drama games, literally fucking up people's lives. Please read
the articles on Unisexification
to shed some light on why this is occurring. I'm sure we've all
been through it. I am asking the guys to read this and apply
their own logic here; it is up to you to BE A MAN AND PUT AN END
TO THIS FIASCO.