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Analyzing The
Drama Queen And A Woman's I.Q. Test
-written by Luigi Di Serio, edited
by Aaron S. Bayley
Why do women love drama?
The answer is quite easy. Women
CREATE drama simply to put men to the test. Women are
attention-seekers in constant need of reassurance and affirmation
that someone cares for them and wants to protect them. There is a
correlation between the amount of drama a woman creates and the
success of a relationship, based on these factors. The less
women
believe they are being cared for and protected
(whether real or perceived), the more drama
they create. In the realms of courtship and intimate relationships,
women CONSTANTLY put men to the test with the use of comments,
complaints, and DRAMA. Drama is employed by women to put people,
often men, on the spot, by exploiting their emotional strengths
and weaknesses to the breaking point. Women quickly judge how well
men handle drama; this is when they determine how much patience,
courage, will, passion, and other important characteristics are
present or absent in a man.
Why are men so oblivious to this?
There are two main reasons. First, it is all played out
subconsciously, and second, we have been socially programmed
through media, pop culture, and belief systems to become totally
unaware of this fact. For women, drama separates the boys from the
men. Some of us rise to the occasion, while others are clearly not
up to the challenge and wither away like an undesirable species.
In relationships, the more a man passes a woman's test, the more
control and intimacy they achieve with their partner. Women want
men who are in control of themselves, yet slightly out of control;
a confident, independent individual who excels in different arenas
of life. This is because women ultimately "surrender"
themselves, to a certain extent, to a man who they believe to be
"the one".
Here are some examples of how
women employ drama, along with I.Q.
(intimacy-query) test questions and comments:
"So, where are you taking
me?" {wants sense of mystery/romance created for her}
"Can you do this for me...pleaseeeeee?" {test of a man's
integrity}
"This place sucks!"
"I want this (clothing/food)." {anything impulsive}
"I am annoyed." {any extreme emotion}
"Those people are bothering me."
"I have a lot of guy friends." {testing waters of
jealousy, insecurity}
"All girls are bitches...I don't have many female
friends." {same as above, but w/hint of autonomy}
"Why are you looking at her?!" {test of loyalty through
use of overt jealousy}
"This guy asked me out. He told me I'm hot/cute."
{testing waters of jealousy, insecurity}
"Me and my girls are having a girls night out."
{employing sense of mystery}
"I am going here instead." {sense of mystery w/ display
of independence}
"Leave me alone!" {"I want to talk about something
with you." Or, "Leave me alone."}
"I don't play games." {"I play games
CONSTANTLY."}
"I'm not worried about guys...just focused on
school/work." {diversions that are props or
"fronts"}
All these techniques are a
women's way of testing men to see if the man is jealous, insecure,
overly-nice, manipulative, self-serving, spineless, or basically,
worth their trouble. To a woman, the most UNATTRACTIVE thing in
the world is INSECURITY in men. Why do you think nice guy's finish
last? Because being nice, usually means, but not always, being
insecure in one way or another. Women constantly test men's
security. Since they already know they can seduce us with their
bodies, they need not try this as a test, unless you passed all
the others. Women are only attracted to men whom they seek
intimacy with, men who are stern and in control of themselves, yet
not jealous or controlling. It makes us irresistible.
EXAMPLE 1:
Woman: "So, where are you taking me?"
Failed Answer: "Where do you want to go?"
Passed Answer: "It's a surprise."
Super-Seduction Pass: "Don't worry, you're going to LOVE it,
and if you don't....too bad..."
(with a slight smirk for a touch
of humour)
EXAMPLE 2:
Woman: "I want this (clothing/food)."
Failed Answer: "Anything you want." Or, "You're so
demanding!"
Passed Answer: "Not now, but maybe later." Or, "So
take some initiative and go get it."
Super-Seduction Pass: "Hey, nothing's for free in this
world...what's in it for ME?"
Do you see the difference? The
failed answers are either submissive or insecure responses. The
normal passed answers are alright, but not necessarily good for
creating attraction, ambiguity or indifference, all of which keep
women interested (at least to the point where they will create
more tests and drama). The super-seduction pass answers let the
woman know you are in control, and if she wants something, she can
give in to you. It creates mystery and tension, which, when used
together, are VERY powerful and seductive tools.
The bottom line is, when it comes
to dealing with a woman's drama, recognize it, and act
accordingly- that is, be a MAN, not MANHANDLED. And never take a
woman's words TOO seriously; they change their minds more often
than baby's change diapers (never mind that analogy, what the f **k
do guys know about BABIES???).
Entre el Si Y el No de la mujer,
No me atrevaria yo a poner una punta de afiler. (Between a woman's
"Yes"
and "No", There is not room for a pin to
go.) - Cervantes, Don Quixote
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